All
your ideas, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings about who you combine
into what we refer to as your Self-Identity. Our thoughts and ideas
are like tennis balls we toss up in the air. Emotions connected to
our thoughts and beliefs are the tennis racket we use to send the
tennis ball out into the quantum field. The quantum field acts as a
backboard sending back to us the circumstances that mirror the
thoughts, beliefs and emotions we sent out. The stronger the emotion
connected to a thought or belief, the more energy propelling those
thoughts and beliefs against the quantum backboard. And then back
into our lives.
We
each have strong, deeply rooted emotions connected to the thoughts
and beliefs we hold about who we are, don’t we? This is why
editing, revising and clearing up your Self-Identity to
remove/release the negative thoughts and emotions about who you are
can have such a big and beneficial impact on your life. Editing out
the negative, limiting beliefs and negative emotions clears the space
so that the real You can shine through in all your glory!
When
I began the actual ascending process, I saw that in fact, upgrading
one’s Self-Identity plays a “key” role in activating for
ascension to occur. For those choosing to pursue transitioning to the
next level of consciousness (ascension), clearing out what is Not You
from your Self-Identity serves as one of the keys to ascension,
unlocking the door to ascending to the next level of consciousness.
These
exercises and the mediation tools to follow (in subsequent posts) are
ones I created for myself in the months just prior to ascending up to
the next level of consciousness. At the time, I created these tools
in order to feel better about myself and to free myself from the
weight of all negative, belittling, judgemental labels I’d absorbed
in childhood and adulthood. The exercises made a huge difference in
how I felt about myself and I share now with the intention that they
might assist others in their journey of growth, healing and
wholeness.
So
let’s pick up and continue on from where we left off in Part
I of this series. Gather
up your lists from the previous exercises. There’s one more list to
create. Well actually two.
The
Positive Qualities You May or May Not Own Make
a list of the positive things others say about you. Examples: You’re
so talented. You always know how to handle an emergency. You’re so
creative. You’re one of the most non-judgemental people I’ve ever
met.
Some
of these positive statements about you may be strengths or attributes
you own. On the other hand, some might be ones you’ve resisted owning about yourself. If you have a lot of
resistance about owning a positive quality that others often
acknowledge, it might be an area to look into.
You
Are The One & Only Expert On You Each
person is unique. You are the one and only expert on You. Thus you
are the only one who can make the choices as to what you wish to
include in your Self-Identity and what you want to edit out and
release from your mental, emotional, physical and energetic fields.
Defining
Your Revised Self-Identity While
it may seem counter-intuitive to start defining your revised
Self-Identity before taking steps to release the parts you
want to let go of, there’s a benefit to starting here first. When
you define your Self-Identity in a new way, one that most accurately
reflects who you are and how you choose to see yourself, you gain
clarity, stability, strength, and become more grounded. This puts you
in a solid & high vibrational space, one which facilitates the
process of releasing the stuff that no longer, or never did, fit for
you.
After
reviewing all the lists you’ve made from this and the previous
post, each giving you info on how you see yourself from different
perspectives, it’s time to define your revised Self-Identity. On a
clean sheet of paper, make a list of the qualities, attributes, and
self-identifiers you choose for yourself. Taking the time to write
out your Self-Identity is a first step in self-expression and bring
your true sense of self into form.
This
is a statement of your sovereignty. And it’s not my place to guide
you this way or that. Yet I will share some options you might
consider.
Options
to consider:
Place
the various roles you play - spouse, sibling, parent, grandparent,
supervisor, employee, etc. - in a side column of “Hats” that you
put on and take off as needed.
Consider
including qualities and attributes that you want to embody. Example:
courage, compassion, humour, confidence, flexibility, honesty,
integrity….
Practice
“trying on” qualities or attributes that you want to embody on a
continuing or situational basis. Each of us knows what confidence
feels like, for instance, even if we’ve not seen ourself as very
confident in the past. Trying on an attribute on gets us
re-acquainted with the feeling, one you may decide you want to
embody frequently.
If
you’re looking to make a career move, or change direction in
another aspect of your life, consider including the qualities and
attributes that fit you being successful in this new endeavor
(however you define successful).
It’s
important to recognize that, as a Sovereign being, you are in charge
of how you choose to see and feel about yourself. You can choose how
you want to experience yourself. Pretty neat, huh?
With
your new sense of Self-Identity taking root and giving you stability,
I’ll spend the next couple of posts sharing some meditation tools
that can be effective in releasing old labels and false personae,
reigning in your inner critic, and replacing limiting beliefs with
positive ones.
You
are the Light. Shine with the clarity of your true Self! Godspeed!
One
of the most powerful ways to change your life for the better is to
change the way you see yourself. What you experience in your life is
merely a reflection of what is inside you. Your Self-Identity
holds resonance (vibration). What you resonate from within
attracts that of the same resonance into your life. Even small
changes in your sense of Self-identity ripple out in beneficial ways
in every aspect of your life, and the lives of others.
How
We Identify Ourself Most
of us when asked Who Are You? offer a list encompassing our
profession, family roles (mother, father, wife, husband, daughter,
son…), political party, group memberships, and activities (jogger,
gardener, painter, activist…), and perhaps an attribute or two such
as, dog-lover, creative, or free-thinker.
Many
of the roles, labels and attributes we absorbed into our
self-identity during childhood or many years ago. We adopt these
identifiers consciously or subconsciously, yet may not shed them when
they no longer represent who we are. Ask yourself, are you the same
person now that you were six months ago? A year ago? Five or ten
years ago? Has your sense of Self-Identity changed in keeping with
the changes in you and in your life?
At
the deeper emotional and subconscious levels, our core sense of
identity is acquired in a piecemeal fashion as we grow up and
interact with others in our world. We take on what I call false
personae. We
acquire and take in at the subconscious levelduring
our early childhood aspects of our Self-Identity upon
hearing declarations such as “You were a fussy baby.” And as we
grow up we hear: YOU ARE... “too rebellious”, “such a cry
baby”, “too demanding”, “too emotional”, “too much of a
free-spirit”, “too sensitive” “not man enough”, “weak”,
“too far out there”, “crazy”, “hair-brained”, “selfish”,
“such a coward”, “too aggressive”, “always think you’re
so special”, “stupid” etc. etc. and on and on and on. It’s
often more difficult for us to take in and self-identify with the
positive things others tell us about who we are. The gist of these
pronouncements, which we absorb into our sense of identity at a deep
unconscious level, amass into a deep-seated self perception of “I’m
not good enough.” or “I’m not worthy.”
Notice
the commonality between our list of professional, relationship roles,
and outside interests, and the false personae is that they’re all
derived from outside ourselves, our outside associations and
(mostly negative) opinions of others. The
Benefits of Editing, Revising & Upgrading your Self-Identity
Changing
and upgrading your Self-Identity raises your vibration as you
release old attributes that no longer or never did fit for you.
Dependent upon what choices you make in selecting your revised sense
of self, it can raise your vibration significantly.
When
you change how you see yourself to reflect what is truly you, you
align yourself with your higher Soul Self.
When
you change your Self-Identity, based on your choices and Not others’
opinions of you, you (re)claim your Sovereignty.
When
your Self-Identity is based on your core attributes, and not your
outside affiliations and roles, you gain stability and grace. This
is especially valuable in these global transition and awakening
times as the falsehoods are being exposed and the Truth is revealed.
When one roots their self-identity in a particular cause or belief,
one loses the ability to dispassionately assess information that
refutes the basis for one’s affiliation.
When
you remove false personae from your Self-Identity, and revise to
reflect who you are and what you choose to embody, you remove lenses
of distortion and expand your perspective on the world and open to
seeing possibilities you could not see before.
When
you change your Self-Identity to one that reflects all the many
positive attributes you embody, you diminish the power of your inner
critic.
How
to Change Your Self-Identity If
I just tell you about the benefits of changing your Self-identity
you’ll get a cursory inkling. If I give you some tools to change
your Self-identity and you try them out, you could develop deeper
understanding and witness results. That’s the shared intent here.
The
first step in upgrading your Self-Identity is to take a good look and
identify what’s there, both consciously and subconsciously. In the
second step, you get to make choices on what you want to keep, what
to reframe, and what to let go of. Lastly, I’ll give you a couple
of meditation tools to make revisions at the deeper subconscious
level. This will most likely take a number of sessions with your
journal and meditations. You may experience huge transformation in
the process.
If
you’re up for this, grab your journal and pen. This is a list of
journaling exercises to examine how you self-identify.
1.
When someone asks you to tell them who you are, what do you
say? Write your answer as a list. Leave room to make three
side-by-side columns.
After
you have your list, in you second column, note for each item whether
it’s a family role, profession, activity you engage in, or an
attribute.
In
your third column make a note about your feelings for your role,
professions, activity, or attribute. Take
a some time to reflect on your answers and journal your thoughts. What
patterns do you notice? Are
the ways you describe yourself primarily descriptors? How many are
positive attributes? Are
there patterns in how you feel about this identity you share with
others? Other
observations?
2.
How do you describe yourself to your Self?
Write your answers as a list. Leave room to make three side-by-side
columns.
After
you’ve made your list, in the second column note whether the
descriptor is positive or negative. In
your third column make a note about your feelings for each descriptor
on your list.
Now
take some time to reflect on your answers. How
positively/negatively do you describe yourself to your Self? What
patterns do you see?
How
does the way you describe yourself to yourSelf compare or differ from
the way you describe yourself to others?
Other
observations?
3.
What does your inner critic say to you? Make a list of
your inner critic’s comments about you. You might want to closely
observe your inner critic for a day or two and take notes along the
way. After
you have this list. In a second column, note TRUE or FALSE.
For
each inner critic statement that you marked as True, flag it as a
“Limiting Belief”. Take
time to reflect and journal on your observations. What patterns to
you see? How often do you believe what your inner critic says is
true? 4.
What statements have others made telling you, or others, who
you are? Make a list of the statements/labels made by family,
teachers, school friends, friends parents, employers, co-workers,
during childhood and adulthood.
In
a second column note whether each statement on your list is positive
or negative.
Sometimes
statements/labels denote a quality or attribute that you find to be
positive, yet it was said with a negative connotation or context. For
example “free-spirited” or “inquisitive”. Make a star or
highlight these statements. You might decide to re-orient these
qualities or attributes into “positive” at the subconscious
level.
Spend
some time reflecting on this list and journalling on what comes up for
you. Note which ones were especially hurtful, or that you’re aware
you took in at a very deep level.
As
you’re doing these exercises and journalling about them, you may
very likely find some old hurts coming up to be processed so you can
heal, forgive and release them. You may also discover strengths you
hadn’t seen in yourself before. This
wraps up the exercises for examining and identifying your send of
Self-Identity. The next post(s) in this series will continue on with
making choices of what you want to edit out and discard, and what you want to
include in your Self-Identity. Lastly, then implementing and integrating
your choices at both the consciously and subconscious levels.
This
guidance used to leave me in a state of confusion and frustration
after each attempt to get the answers I needed. I’d sit quietly
and focus inwards but I never heard the wise, loving voice speak the
answers to my questions, questions that habitually involved some
rather desperate version of “What’s going to happen???” or
“What should I do???” Despite being strongly clairsentient
(empath), and at times clairvoyant, I longed to be clairaudient so
that some voice of wisdom would tell me the right choice to make, or
tell me what was coming so I could prepare. Sound familiar?
"If
you correct your mind, the rest will fall into place" -Lao Tzu
About
85 – 90% of the spiritual journey is a journey of self-discovery
and personal growth. When we know and understand the process, we can
better navigate the tasks required for correcting our minds. The
analogy I'll use here is of a messy, over-stuffed garage. This is pretty
much the state of our minds at the start of the path of self
exploration, discovery and healing – a messy, cluttered garage.
It’s very hard to find the answers inside when inside is a
cluttered jumble of old stuff. The process of getting to an inner
state of clarity and openness involves A LoT of sorting, chucking
out, discovering inner resources we didn’t know we had, cleaning
up, re-organizing, re-polishing, re-purposing, and donating back to
Source what we no longer need/want so that it can be transformed.
This
is a pretty comprehensive list of the tasks involved in the process
of clearing and correcting the mind:
Sorting
through old hurts, figuring out what wisdom can be gleaned from the
experiences.
Learning
to release old emotions from the mental, emotional, phsyical, and
energetic body.
Learning
forgiveness.
Discovering
the one or two core issues you came in to explore and learn about in this lifetime.
Examining
the programming you adopted while growing up in your family of origin
– Roles, overt & covert Rules, patterns of communication,
perspectives, beliefs, values, who your family told you that you
are. Then deciding what to keep, what to revise, what to replace
with new ones that fit and work better for who you are now.
Examining,
editing, revising and upgrading your Self-identity.
Raising your sense of Self-worth, which for most of us, is pretty
low when we start out.
Eliminating
Fears.
Running
out the Doubt.
Identifying
and replacing limiting ideas and beliefs with expansive ones.
Identifying
the stories you tell about your life events where one often feature
themselves as the victim, and rewriting your stories with new, more positive
ones. Then ultimately, throwing the stories out completely.
Elevating
lower vibrating emotions to higher ones.
As
we progress along the spiritual path, we progress in de-cluttering,
cleaning-up, re-purposing, and organizing the mind. As the mind is
cleared, corrected to reflect who one really is, it becomes easier
and easier to go within and find the answers one seeks. The
cleaned-up garage of the mind then feature:
Open
space, openness of mind.
Deep
knowledge and awareness of Self.
An
array of very useful Tools, easily accessible, with ever developing
skill in using them.
An
organized store of internal resources – Courage, optimism,
honesty, integrity, resourcefulness, creativity, inner strength,
flexibility, self-trust, humor, wisdom, compassion and self-worth.
Elevated
vibration.
The
coolest sports vehicle imaginable, one that can even transport you
to the next higher level of consciousness, if you so choose.
Eventually
the need for answers dissipates and evolves simply into an intention to
create what one chooses to experience.
The
science of creation, aka manifestation, is based on quantum physics.
It’s science. You do not need to understand the science to
manifest. In fact we all manifest every day, whether we know it or
not, whether we understand the underlying science or not.
Now,
if we understand the process and have the gist of the physics
involved, we can create with purpose and intention what is beneficial
in our lives and serves the highest good of humanity.
The
Manifestation Process is a simple, seven step process. Like the seven notes in
a musical scale. One takes the steps in order, with steps 4, 5 and 6
continuing on at the same time. In other words, keep doing Step 4 as
your add in Step 5 and Step 6.
Here
are the Seven Steps of Manifesting:
1.
Will to Do – Your commitment to create ____________ (fill in the
blank)
2.
Perceive – the design, the vision, the definition, the purpose.
3.
Divine Love – Deep, pure, unwaivering love of your design.
4.
Purity of Focus – Do NOT waiver from or second guess your design.
5.
Concentration – Maintain Focus and Follow Through as you work, step
by step towards your creation.
6.
Rhythm – Keep Showing Up, taking action towards your creation on a
regular basis. Build & keep the momentum going.
7. Tranquillity – After your creation is completed,
mentally/emotionally wrap your creation in Peace.
When
these seven steps are followed, manifestation WILL occur.
When
the process of manifestation is disrupted mid-process, we don’t get
the creation we are hoping/planning for. Sometimes we end up with
nothing, other times we get something not quite what we designed or the opposite of what we set out to create.
These
are some of the ways we disrupt our process of manifestation:
Giving
up. This often happens just before our manifested creation was about
to show up for us.
Second
guessing our design (Step 2).
Doubting.
Doubting self, doubting your abilities, doubting your worthiness.
Doubting your design.
Limiting
thoughts & beliefs, both conscious and unconscious. Example: "I
don’t really deserve this", "Only greedy people make a lot of money",
"I’ll never own my own home", "That’s never going to happen for me"….
Losing
Focus. This happens when we get distracted or start doubting. When we don’t follow
through in taking actions towards your creation. “maybe I’ll start it
tomorrow...”
Failing
to build and keep momentum. This involves failure to take
regular action towards your creation.
Sending
out lower vibration emotions in regards to any aspect of what you are
creating. Examples: anger, frustration, fear, doubt, jealousy,
despair.
The
tricky part of manifestation is that to really create effectively,
one has to develop their inner mastery. Just as a novice musician
first learns to play the scales, it takes practice and dedication for
the musician to uncover their mastery and develop their skills to
play a symphony.
It takes dedication and perseverance to do the inner work to clear out the limiting thoughts and beliefs, to remove self doubts, to discipline your focus. However, the nice thing about developing one’s
inner mastery is that as a result your inner work, step by step, your life gets better and better.
As with all things, it is your Free Will choice whether to pursue this path or not.
